RESOLUTIONS
VS. GOALS

Copyright 2003 Deborah Taylor-Hough
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Now that the New Year is in full swing, many of us are facing the reality of some of those difficult-to-keep New Year's resolutions. Did you make any this year? I know I did -- but this year I'm confident I'll be able to keep mine.

I've found it's easiest to stick with any New Year's changes by thinking of them as goals and new habits rather than making the more traditional "resolutions" about general areas of my life. I also find that the more specific I can be about what I'm going to do, the better.
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Setting Specific Goals

A general statement of "I resolve to be more organized this year," doesn't really give me anything specific to hang onto while I'm going about my daily life. But if I say something like, "Every night before I go to bed, I'm going to make sure the house is picked up and the dishes are all put away," I'll know exactly what I need to do to accomplish my goal.

This basic technique of stating specific goals, works well for kids, too. For example, my son desired to set a goal for the New Year of keeping his room cleaner.

Just saying, "I resolve to keep my room clean this year," doesn't help him grasp the practical steps he needs for success. But by having specific goals such as "Every night before bed, I'll make sure everything's picked up off the floor ... and every morning when I get up, I'll make my bed and put away my pajamas," he knows exactly what to do.

An Example Goal: Weight Loss

This past year, I accomplished a major goal: I lost 60 pounds! Although it wasn't a New Year's resolution (I began during the week of Easter), I still followed these same guidelines when I started my new eating plan.

Rather than saying, "My goal is to lose 60 pounds this year" (which would've been way too overwhelming for me -- I wasn't even sure I could successfully lose ten pounds at that point!), I said to myself, "My goal is to stick with this new eating plan diligently for four weeks. At the end of that time, I'll see if it's working for me. If it is, I'll continue the process for another four weeks and then reevaluated again at the end of that time."

Well, those first four weeks became ten months ... and by simply setting a realistic goal of sticking with the plan for a relatively short period of time, I lost a considerable amount of weight -- and three dress sizes! Plus, I have more energy and fewer bouts of colds and flu -- all because I set small, specific goals rather than making a number of larger, non-specific resolutions.

I know people are going to write and ask what weight-loss plan I used, so here's a link to the book (for the curious):

'Eat, Cheat, and Melt the Fat Away' http://snurl.com/jlv

This particular eating plan worked well for me because I was never hungry, I ate until full at every meal (and I had snacks!), and I didn't have to measure serving sizes, watch calories, or count grams of anything. Some of the food-combining rules were a little mind-boggling at first, but after I discovered the handy one-page "cheat sheet" in the back of the book, the whole program became much easier to figure out.

But please don't think you have to run out and buy the same book I used to make this idea work. A friend of mine has started using this same simple process of losing weight (setting one small goal at a time and then re-evaluating regularly along the way) by following a completely different weight-loss program that made more sense for her lifestyle and food choices.

So if your New Year's goal is weight loss, be sure to choose something you think you'll be able to stick with for a fairly long period of time. Don't choose some "lose-20-pounds-in-10-days-by-eating-coconuts-and-diet-pills" type of program. Nobody can eat like that for any length of time and remain healthy. Look for a healthy way of eating that will allow you to stick with it over the long haul.

 

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Another Goal: Exercise

After losing so much weight, it became obvious I needed to add some exercise to my daily routine in order to tone my now-much-thinner body, so my New Year's goal is to add more exercise to my life. Because my limited budget wouldn't allow for a health club membership or regular workouts at the local gym, I needed to find something that would meet my needs, both physically and fiscally.

I knew whatever I chose needed to be simple and easy, or I wouldn't follow through. So I've decided to just plug in my favorite low-impact aerobics video three to four times a week, and then also use a small piece of exercise equipment that I bought on sale for less than $15 at an after-Christmas sale at the a local variety store. Between these two easy -- and relatively cheap! --exercise options, I'm hoping to see an improvement in my overall tone and fitness soon.

My New Year's goal for exercising is, "I will work out 3 days per week with the aerobic video, and 4 days per week with the exercise equipment."

One Habit at a Time

I've been told it takes four to six weeks for a new action to become an ingrained habit, so another way I'm going to insure my New Year's success is to work on one new habit at a time for one month, and then each month add another new habit to my life.

At the end of the year, I'll have twelve new, good habits in my life. And once something's become a habit, it's simply a part of my life and not something I'll even have to think about anymore.

Here are some sample goals and habits I'm planning to implement throughout the coming year (in no particular order -- taken one at time, one per month):

--Use both the aerobic video and exercise equipment 3-4 times per week --Implement all of the FlyLady's home organizing reminders [http://www.flylady.net/] --Spend 20-30 minutes reading aloud to my children everyday --Get up at 5am for devotions, prayer, and Bible study --Work on my new book(s) for half an hour everyday --Spend ten minutes each day decluttering

If I started the New Year off by attempting to do every one of these things at the same time, I know I'd just become overwhelmed and give up before any of these activities became habitual and second-nature to me.

Eating an Elephant

By making small and consistent changes, it's possible to change your health, your body, and your life.

What's the area of life you're most concerned about? Exercise? Weight loss? Healthy eating? Getting organized? Saving money? Spending more time with your kids? Break your goal down into simple steps that you can easily manage, and then start working your way to your goal, one small step at a time.

As the old cliche' says:
How do you eat an elephant? ...
One bite at a time.

 


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About the author:  --Deborah Taylor-Hough (free-lance writer and much thinner mother of three) is the author of several books including 'Frozen Assets: How to cook for a day and eat for a month,' and the brand new 'Frugal Living For Dummies(r)' (Wiley, mid-January '03). Visit Debi online and subscribe to one of her free e-newsletters: http://hometown.aol.com/dsimple/

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